Blog Post #34: Advice Is A Lot Easier For Everyone Else

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I don’t really think there’s an appropriate picture for this topic, but it’s just something that I think a lot of people to know and realize and remember in their day-to-day lives.

“Giving advice is pretty easy, isn’t it? Anyone can give advice. Anyone can make recommendations. Anyone can tell you what to do. But just because someone gives you advice, that doesn’t mean it’s the correct advice for you.”

OH MY GOD THIS IS SO IMPORTANT TO REMEMBER!

Never, ever, ever do anything that people tell you to do if you do not agree with their viewpoint. I mean, there are always times where they’re trying to help you, and you don’t really have an opinion on the subject.

For example, my parents are always pushing me to do new things and expand my horizons, whereas I hate leaving my comfort zone and meeting new people because it’s hard for me. In this case, it would probably be a good idea for me to listen to my parents and do things that I wouldn’t otherwise do.

But, like in “All Quiet on the Western Front”, Kantorek, Paul’s teacher, is always talking about war and how great it is and what an adventure it’ll be. He doesn’t know this; he’s never been in a war. It’s what he’s been fed by propaganda and government tactics to prevents riots against the draft.

Or like in this other book I’ve been reading, “Girlhearts”. Sarabeth’s mother has just had a heart attack at 29, leaving her alone in the world as a 15 year old orphan. And there’s so much pity and sympathy and just plain old “do-gooders” trying to tell her how to live her life and how to make everything go back to “normal”.

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 But other people rarely have a stake in the outcome of taking their advice, which makes it less valid than your own point of view.

Kantorek and all these people in “Girlhearts” can afford to dole out this advice because, for them, it’s theoretical.

 

He’s never seen war.

They’ve probably never been in her situation.

He’s heard a lot about it, but we know now that the ……………………………………………… governments heavily relied on restricted public …………………………………………………… information.

…………………………………………………..Yeah, they’ve lost close family members, friends,  ………………………………………………………….. maybe even parents, but I haven’t come across one yet that’s been legally a “ward of the court”.

And they don’t know how to deal with those situations; because they never have, and their advice is irrelevant to Paul’s and Sarabeth’s situation. The only thing that can get them through, is themselves.

And the only thing that can get you through, is yourself. Don’t disregard other people’s good wishes and honest advice, but the bottom line is, you’re the one that has to deal with whatever it is, so whatever feels right to you, is right.. for you.

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2 thoughts on “Blog Post #34: Advice Is A Lot Easier For Everyone Else

    partyofone said:
    April 7, 2014 at 12:44 am

    The amount of self-empowerment in that post was unbelievable. I feel so capable right now, thanks!

      stephanieaaaaa responded:
      April 7, 2014 at 9:12 pm

      I’m so glad, your welcome!!! You can do anything!! 🙂

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